No one can give others what they do not have. Those of us who are aware of this reality have a great responsibility. And while this is true for material matters, it is also true for emotional matters, although with more important consequences in the latter case. That is to say, material goods are obtained and that's it, although sometimes it is difficult. Emotional matters can have repercussions as severe as deep depression and its consequences or, at the other extreme, they increase a person's focus, productivity and enjoyment to such a level that they become successful in whatever their main area of performance is.
Well-being or feeling good is an emotion and is not measured by the amount of things a person can consume, as I was traditionally taught in economics school, but rather it depends exclusively on the interpretation we make of the events that occur around us. That interpretation is based on our "brain programming."
Just as a video game responds in a certain way to commands sent from a controller and allows us to advance and become experts due to a programming that the video game has; we are also programmed to respond in a certain way, which means that there is a control and a coding.
Being aware of our brain programming is much more complicated than the first sentence I wrote in this week's topic. That is to say, things are getting a little complicated, but don't worry, I hope to awaken your interest before anything else.
The crux of the matter is knowing what our coding is and, of course, what our control is. The coding is in the unconscious and the control is in the conscious. In order to modify the programming we need to become surgeons and operate on our unconsciousness from the conscious with self-awareness exercises such as reflection, full consciousness, RECT, ANC or NLP. This topic is very interesting but it is beyond the scope of this blog.
Returning to the "brain programming" housed in the unconscious, thanks to it we have made the decisions of our life, we have progressed or we have been limited, we have had success or limitations. This "brain programming" was encoded in our first 8 years of life, mainly by our parents, with their great love full of successes and some failures.
Among these failures of our parents are some deep marks. These are called emotional wounds of childhood. These wounds have their roots in 5 behaviors of our parents, they are rejection, abandonment, humiliation, injustice and betrayal. And these roots have triggered feelings or thoughts such as defensiveness, constant isolation, fear of commitment, fear of rejection, contempt for others, dependence and the satisfied slave syndrome.
If you identify with any of the roots mentioned above or their consequences you do not have to feel bad. Being aware of this is the first step to overcome it. The good news is that you are not alone, many of us belong to that group, I am one of them. This situation has a solution. I will soon discuss in this blog some of the brain reprogramming tools that help us feel good about that past withoutaffecting or limiting us in our present.
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